And now for the not so good news, in a way........Anna has really taking a liking to her daddy today, and like a leach. And she is only letting him hold her. We thought before we traveled that it would be the other way around.But is is not!! I told Mickey that I did not fly across the world , work so hard for 3 years on paperwork, to get rejected by a 4 1/2 year old, but that was happening, and it hurt! I was shunned for pretty much the whole day. After Civil Affairs we went to KFC for some chicken (I had spicy chicken sandwich, Anna had nuggets, and Mickey - just fries). She was clingy most of the day to her Daddy, so finally I had had enough. We went down to talk to the Bethany Social Worker who is here with us, and she talked to Anna. She is doing well with the kids and parents and talks to the kids very often about their parents. She said Anna knows who her mama and papa are, and she just feels very safe with Daddy. I can accept that, but think she told her more than that, because a light switch turned on. We went after that to the mall again to find Anna some "girl" shoes, because the orphanage shoes were very boyish. We came back and ate in the room, and she turned into a chatterbox. She finally opened up with me and let me paint her fingernails, color with her, and was laughing and giggling. Those were baby steps.....but that is fine.... Also, while we were at the mall, we had another experience with 
there being 649 people on 1 elevator. Bob swore to never ride an elevator again in that mall, so we took the escalator down 6 flights. The 6th floor at the mall was dedicated to only kids, it was neat- Toys R us, Disney, Adidas, and more. And we found some khaki shoes that fit. And to the Kearney Family- check out the New Balance store in Downtown Shanghai!!
6 comments:
hang in there..it is very comment for a child to only bond with one parent, and it may be Dad. on our first trip, there was a 3 year old who stuck to Dad like Velcro. he looked exhausted after a few days...but by the end of the trip she was a mama's girl...
you have a beautiful daughter
jen, asyouwish from the BB
Bless your heart. I know how heart wrenching that must be. Just be consistent and continue to love and adore her and she will open up! I must add that she is absolutely beautiful! Still praying for you guys.
You are so funny! We were told to prepare for the same stuff with bonding. I'm glad you have someone with you who can talk with Anna and reassure her. Glad too that she is bonding with you now and doing well. I jealous that you are getting to shop and eat regular food. :) We certainly did not get to do that. Can't wait to see you all back at home! Enjoy your time there in Anna's home!
Candice
Be encouraged that everyone following your blog is praying for you, Mickey and Anna during this transition. Be strong, faithful and patient as you are now a mother of 4! This “adventure” has been teaching you patience all along the way….We have enjoyed the times we have been able to see and talk with the 3 of you (esp. Anna!). Rest assured that your other 3 children are safe and sound and we are all anxiously awaiting your safe return back home. We love you all!
She is just beautful, and it looks like you are getting to enjoy some sightseeing while you are there...can't wait to meet her!
Shannon
As a mama with a daddy's boy, I know how hard it is when you want to love on them and they want the other parent. Sometimes I get my feelings hurt when Jonah wants Ray all the time or runs to Ray when he gets hurt. It must be hard after such a long journey and waiting for her. She will open up in time. I'm sure it's pretty common during the bonding process. Praying for more bonding with you.
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